I said to the one who stood at the Gate of the Year, Give me a light that I might go safely out into the darkness. The gatekeeper replied, Go out into the darkness and put your hand into the hand of God. That shall be more to you than a light and safer than a known way.
What keeps us from forgiving the people who hurt us is that we have not yet healed the wounds they inflicted. Forgiveness is the gift at the end of the healing process. We find it waiting for us when we reach a point where we stop expecting "them" to pay for what they did or make it up to us in some way. Yet, forgiveness is moving on. It is recognizing that we have better things to do with our life and then doing them.
~ from YOM KIPPUR READINGS, ed. by R. Dov Peretz Elkins
