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God's forgiveness is unconditional

God's forgiveness is unconditional; it comes from a heart that does not demand anything for itself, a heart that is completely empty of self-seeking. It is this divine forgiveness that I have to practice in my daily life. It tells me to keep stepping over all my arguments that say forgiveness is unwise, unhealthy, and impractical. It challenges me to step over all my needs for gratitude and compliments. Finally, it demands of me that I step over that wounded part of my heart that feels hurt and wronged and that wants to stay in control and put a few conditions between me and the one I am asked to forgive. This "stepping over" is the authentic discipline of forgiveness.

~ from RETURN OF THE PRODIGAL SON by Henri J. M. Nouwen

Those who cannot forgive

Those who cannot forgive others break the bridge over which they themselves must pass.

~ Confucius

Forgiving in bits and pieces

Perhaps it's possible to forgive in one grand swoop, but I didn't experience it that way. I did it in bits and pieces. You forgive what you can, when you can. To forgive does not mean overlooking the offense and pretending it never happened. Forgiveness means releasing our rage and our need to retaliate, no longer dwelling on the offense, the offender, and the suffering, and rising to a higher love. It is an act of letting go so that we can go on.

~ from THE DANCE OF THE DISSIDENT DAUGHTER by Sue Monk Kidd

Write injuries in sand

Write injuries in sand,
Kindness in marble.

~ French proverb

Forgiveness is moving on

What keeps us from forgiving the people who hurt us is that we have not yet healed the wounds they inflicted. Forgiveness is the gift at the end of the healing process. We find it waiting for us when we reach a point where we stop expecting "them" to pay for what they did or make it up to us in some way. Yet, forgiveness is moving on. It is recognizing that we have better things to do with our life and then doing them.

~ from YOM KIPPUR READINGS, ed. by R. Dov Peretz Elkins

Forgiving within hours of the violence

A few old trees remain standing in the pasture that had been the schoolyard. In addition, five young evergreens now grow along a nearby fence row... They rise heavenward, quietly pointing to the Divine Grace that somehow enabled the community to forgive within hours of the violence.

~ Donald B Kraybill in "Amish Memorials:The Nickel Mines Pasture and Quiet Forgiveness" HUFFPOST, 2011

Blessed are those who have asked for forgiveness

Blessed are those who have confessed
  their erring ways,
  who have asked for forgiveness.
Blessed are those whose burdens
  have been lifted,
  who are able to respond with love.
For the Beloved walks with them and
  speaks to them in the Silence;
With mercy and compassion, they
  are held in Love's heart;
All who are at one with Love will
  live in peace and harmony.

~ from PSALMS FOR PRAYING, 94, by Nan Merrill

Forgiveness is tremendous strength

In our society, forgiveness is often seen as weakness. People who forgive those who have hurt them or their family are made to look as if they really don't care about their loved ones. But forgiveness is tremendous strength. It is the action of someone who refuses to be consumed by hatred and revenge.

~ Helen Prejean

How forgiveness budded

I wondered if that was how forgiveness budded, not with the fanfare of epiphany,but with pain gathering its things, packing up, and slipping away unannounced in the middle of the night.

~ from THE KITE RUNNER by Khaled Hosseini
The Kite Runner
By Khaled Hosseini

The blessing of forgiveness

The healing of our present woundedness may lie in recognizing and reclaiming the capacity we all have to heal each other, the enormous power in the simplest of human relationships: the strength of touch, the blessing of forgiveness, the grace of someone else taking you as you are and finding in you an unexpected goodness.

~ Rachel Naomi Remen
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